Quick Tips: Trick Yourself into Feeling Confident

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What’s the number 1 thing a mentalist needs? That’s right, confidence. You can have numerous tricks up your sleeve but if you don’t sell them people are going to get bored fast…

The good news is behaviourists have found a simple way to boost your confidence using body language. Your body language conveys how you feel to others but guess what? It also conveys the same information to you! If you let your shoulders slump, make nervous movements and make yourself small your brain gets the message – ‘I don’t feel confident’. It’s a negative feedback cycle!

The way to break out of it is simple, just do it! Correct your body language :) If you catch yourself slipping into negative body language – use confident body language and your brain will get the message – hey I’m feeling confident right now! So what does confident body language look like? You know it when you see it: Standing tall, shoulders back, making yourself big, if your sitting down spreading out a little, putting arms behind your head, smiling!

Confident and non confident body lanagauge is written into our programming. If you take a look at monkeys their body language is very similar to humans, the difference we have is we can take a higher level of conscious control. So while monkeys automatically adopt certain body language based on their social status we can override our programming and trick ourselves into feeling confident whenever we like. Give it a try :)

Contact Mind Reading Trick

Contact Mind Reading

A person’s thoughts are often given away through their body language. In this trick we are going to use muscle reading to get a person to lead us to a hidden object.

In Derren Brown Trick of The Mind 1 [DVD] [2004] Derren uses this skill to find an object hidden in the labyrinthine streets of Venice. Derren has a highly developed ability to read body language, however, it is likely he started learning by practising simple muscle reading techniques like this one.

Here is the trick as shown on hit TV show The Mentalist > a0gn6E1tCNs

The Trick

This trick is ideally performed for 1 of more people in a room at a gathering of friends or a party. You need a subject who will hide an object eg. a coin in the room and you will then use contact mind reading to determine where the object is. The subject should be responsive and willing to follow your instructions for this to work correctly :)

Step 1: Tell the subject to hide the object somewhere in the room while you step out for a minute. The object must be hidden somewhere within reach and must not be on the person.

Step 2: Leave the room while the object is hidden. Don’t peek! You might want to take someone to watch you if there are more than 2 of you present so everyone knows you haven’t looked.

Step 3: When you go back in the room take one of the subject’s hands in your hand. Tell them to relax their arm and support the weight.

Step 4: Now you must convince the person to follow your instructions. Tell them the success of the mind reading trick depends on the strength of their will power to make you go to the object. Tell them not to lead you but to repeat over and over in their mind where the object is.

Step 5: Lead the person to the middle of the room and at this point tell them to now begin repeating in their minds which direction the object is in.

Step 6: Move their hand in one direction and feel for resistance. If you feel resistance, try the other way, if not continue in the same direction. The object in in the direction where least resistance is felt.

Step 7: Once you think you know which general direction the object is in begin to pull the subject towards it, still being aware of resistance.

Step 8: When you get in the general location of the object ask the person to repeat in their mind the direction. Is it up or down? A little more to the left or right? You might feel the arm move. Move the hand, again feeling for resistance.

Step 9: You should now know where the object is. You can either reveal it or lead them to another place in the room before revealing it.

Notes

Of course you are not going to be able to perform this trick right off the bat. You need to practice with a friend before you perform for a larger group. The more practice you get with different people the better you will get.

Here are a few things to bare in mind to make the contact mind reading trick a success:

  • The subject needs to follow your instructions. The effect will not work if the subject thinks of somewhere else in the room to trip you up .
  • When practising with a friend its fine to let them know you are muscle reading. However, when performing give the impression you are mind reading and don’t let the audience know you are muscle reading instead.
  • The trick works on a principle called the ideomotor response. This is largely an unconscious response which means the person will not be aware they are leading you in any particular direction.
  • Some subjects are more suggestible than others, with some subjects you may feel their arm actually pulling you towards the object.

NLP Eye Patterns

NLP eye patterns are a useful thing to know for mentalists.

A lot of the theories of NLP have been debunked by scientists however, eye patterns are one part of NLP which has stood up to scientific analysis.

When a person is accessing information from their brain, their eyes look in different directions as they access different types of information.

For a person who is ‘normally’ oriented there are 6 directions the person will look in. This gives the observer information about the type of information the person is accessing, whether that be visual, auditory, kinesthetic or self-talk.

From Your View Point

NLP Eye Patterns
  • VC – Up and left, Visual Constructed. Person constructing a visual image.
  • VR – Up and right, Visual Remembered. Person remembering something visual.
  • AC – Sideways and left, Auditory Constructed. Person constructing a sound.
  • AR – Sideways and right, Auditory Remembered. Person remembering a sound.
  • K – Down and left, Kinesthetic. Person accessing feelings
  • AD – Down and right, Auditory Digital. Self talk

Eye patterns are useful to know. For one thing they can help you deduce if someone is telling the truth.

To do this first establish a baseline by asking a few questions (because not everyone is normally oriented). For example ask ‘what colour is your front door?’ for a visual remembered response, ‘what’s your favourite song?’ for an auditory remembered response, ‘imagine a pink elephant’ for visual constructed response.

Pay attention to where the eyes go as the person responds, some people’s eye movements are more pronounced than others.

Once you have a baseline you can tell if someone is remembering something or ‘constructing’ something on subsequent questions. This can help in lie detection.

Eye patterns aren’t always clear cut for more complicated questions. For example, to answer a question a person may access different parts of the brain involving images, sounds and feelings before they respond.

NLP experts claim to be able to view such sequences and make meaningful conclusions about them. They use the information for therapeutic work.